Wednesday, December 31, 2008

The Last Day of 2008

The men are off to the mountain to ski, and I thought I'd check in here at a computer for just a minute. I'm supposed to be at the exercise room on the treadmill already. I've made a resolution to lose weight this new year, and I don't believe I'm going to wait until tomorrow to start. I also don't believe I'm not going to eat and drink as much as I want! But I hate feeling so thick around the middle, so it's starting now.

It's snowing like crazy, and we're having a lovely day so far. We've got a great party planned for tonight... hopefully even better than last night... and it seems like a good way to rap up the old year.

I'll check in again later, hopefully!

Tuesday, December 30, 2008

My last day at 44

Today is the day before my birthday. I will be 45 tomorrow.

45 and 44 aren't really that much different, are they? Both are older than I thought. I thought I wouldn't feel "old" until I hit 50, but I surprised myself by feeling that way when I hit 40. Age is only a feeling, of course.

Life expectancy is a hard thing to pinpoint. I know the Center for Disease Control has all kinds of statistics. I looked them up. It seems that the current world lifespan averages around 66. But lifespan differs in different places. Some countries live longer than other countries. And if you make it through puberty at all, you've got a better shot of making it to an older age.

The longest living person lived to be 122. I have no expectations of living that long. Of course, that doesn't take Methusalah into account, that person in the Bible who was supposed to have lived for a few hundred years -- maybe 900? I kinda figure that the math was done wrong on that one.

I think a realistic estimate for me, living in this area, is something like 81 years old or something. But my one Gram lived to be 92. And being optimistic, I prefer to think that I will live to be at least 90. Which, if that is the case, means that this is exactly my half-way year. I can't really have any expectations of longer life than 90. I'm not even sure I'd want to. But with that in mind, I'm exactly middle aged tomorrow. Which, I guess, is better than being old, even though I often feel old. I don't know, can you feel middle aged? I usually only feel old or young, never middle.

On the other hand, I could be way over optimistic. I might not reach 90 at all -- I might get hit by a bus tomorrow. (Which is why if you ever cross the street with me, you'll find I have an overwhelming fear of buses.) (Just kidding.)

But if today was my last day on earth, I must say I've had a good and long life already. Also on those mortality tables, which I looked up here on Wikipedia, they showed how long people of other eras lived. The answer is not too long. Someone in the Bronze age was lucky to make 20. Ancient Greeks and Romans were lucky to make 30. Even someone in the early 1900's was lucky to make 40. So I can't complain about living such a good, easy life, and living it for so long.

Sunday, December 28, 2008

I was tagged by Niall...

... ages ago, but with the holidays, I was too busy to even realize. So now, having seen the tag and having the time to post, I'm posting my Fridge pictures.

What do you have on your fridge? Post a picture! I'm tagging Beth, and Gem, and everyone who wants to play!


Just so you know -- Frankie was the person who arranged the front of our fridge most recently. He was named Senior of the Month, which is a big deal at his High School. At least, it is for him. He was hoping he'd get it. So when he did, I got a copy of the stuff posted in the school, so I could post it at home as well.

Above (and under) his senior of the month stuff is magnetic poetry. And below it, I have the flyer for Devin's eagle project, which happened already; Booth's essay he wrote for a college essay, which I helped him edit, and which I don't want to throw away (even though he has it in his lap top.) I also have a Christmas letter I get from Jan's sister Kathy. She's so creative you wouldn't believe it, the whole thing is beautiful. I also have a recipe I want to try for biscotti. And finally, on the left there over the ice and watermaker, I have all the boy's report cards. They both did really well. Again, though, Frankie was the one who put them there.
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Magnetic Poetry for the Fridge


This has been fun for a long time. It was a gift from Beth, a few years ago. Now, though, we will be replacing it soon, because Nick got Magnetic Chess for his dad for Christmas... I'll take the words down for a while, and we'll replace them with the chess set.
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The wider view

The side of the fridge has way more receipts and appointments and phone numbers and things. You can see the Hummingbird I'm drawing for Laurie, who wants a tattoo. You can also see all the knickknacks on top. Those blue bowls were my Grandmother's. It's a mess, isn't it?

Here is the Kitchen Fridge, both sides, and the view into the pantry...
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The Pantry fridge

Yeah, that's right, we have two fridges right next to each other. I keep soda, and wine, and leftovers, and seeds, and stuff in this fridge. Plus, this fridge has a larger freezer, which is much more useful for meats and casseroles and things. We fill them both up, especially if we're having a party.


On the top, I have the school pictures and baby pictures and things that I get from friends and family. And on the bottom, we have all of the state magnets that we collect when we go to a new state. We've been to quite a few places, but all in the US. I'm starting to think more about traveling internationally... but I'm a big chicken. Maybe when the kids are older.
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A lovely vacation and Shopping thoughts

The Christmas break is wonderful. One of the huge benefits of working at the school is getting so many of the school holidays as work holidays. I don't get many vacation days... but I get so many days off, I can't complain!

Vacation days are lovely and leisurely. Even though the whole family is home, which can be a good thing and a bad thing. (I like having the house to myself a little bit!)

Every morning, I've set my alarm clock for 8 or so. And every morning, I laugh at myself as I turn it off, and sleep until way later than I ought to.

Today, being football day, I was hoping the whole family would be heading to the Jackson's to watch the game, but they decided to stay on the couch. So I met Beth and the girls and her mom for lunch at the mall. We had a nice lunch at Friendly's, and visited a little while. I gave the girls their Christmas presents, and then we separated. I shopped a little bit, hoping to find the bargains they've been talking about on the news.

This is what I've been noticing about the mall and the economy: The stores are scared, and trying to play it conservatively. That's my opinion. It seems like they are filling their shelves with cheap merchandise that if they are stuck with, it won't be too bad for their bottom line.

For example, I've shopped at one department store for their holiday decoration shop for years. They always have a huge selection of expensive items to choose from. But this year, their baskets were full of bulky, inexpensive, plasticy stuff, and even before the holiday the selection was much smaller than usual.

And today, at another department store that I often do well at when buying clothes, I saw table after table of one style of cheap sweater. It was priced pretty well, but it wasn't overly attractive. It looked like something that they had gotten at a really good price and were trying to bulk up their sales with. I guess they can't have an empty store, right? But they don't want to over-extend themselves with items that cost a lot, because no one is shopping much.

It feels like the stores are making every attempt to survive the long, bleak winter ahead of our economy. Only the strong survive, right? So I don't blame them for making this effort. I hope that they all come out doing well, with many jobs intact.

I just hope that the winter ahead isn't as bleak as it seems... and that when spring comes, we are all happy and healthy. I love to have a huge selection of beautiful things to look at when I go shopping. I've been so spoiled in my life.

And yet, I also wish that our whole culture wasn't so based on a disposable lifestyle. I'm as bad as anyone else I know, but I want to change. Will I? Can I? I don't really know.

Well, I didn't buy any clothes today. I don't need anymore clothes -- I need to look better in the clothes I already have. But I did buy books. I'm so excited! I bought a Deepak Chopra book, and a novel that was on the reduced price table, and that Barbara Kingsolver book about eating food that is grown locally. I hope it inspires me to have a bigger garden next year !

Photos from Jude's house

I didn't take too many photos at Jude's house. Mostly, we were all lumpy and sat around and ate tons of cookies. Which is part of the reason why my New Year's resolution this year will be to loose weight. I've never actually made that resolution before. I don't think. I always seem to skate around it. But last week I bought myself a nice new sweat suit, with a picture of an Indian Princess in sequins, and I really want to wear it, but I look like a bratwurst in it. So I've resolved to loose weight. Wish me luck.

But anyway, we always take a nice little walk at Jude's house because it's such a nice outdoorsy place. And I did take a few photos of our walk... which I am posting below.

And after I am done posting all of these photos, I'm going to go make some more cookies. The ricotta ones, for New Years Eve.

No point in making myself miserable TOO soon, is there?

So anyway, back to Jude's house.
The boys even got a little tired of video games and wanted to run around a little. So they brought a football outside, when it was determined that it was time for our walk. William is a cutey, isn't he?
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Go out for a pass.


So anyway, Nick and Will and Thor played a bit of catch in the street in front of the house first. They already know it takes us women a little while to get it together and start walking.
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Good catch!


I actually took a motion shot!

I am so bad at motion photography. This isn't very good, because the subjects are a bit fuzzy. I love Thor's hat, though, don't you? And William's expression.
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We meandered down the road.


The boys didn't stop playing football. Jude and I really needed to stretch our legs a bit, though.
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Usually, there are many deer wandering through the woods at Jude's house. I was planning on taking photos of them. This time, though, I didn't see any. I must not have been looking out the window at the right times.

We saw these deer during our walk. They were just standing in the middle of the road, hanging out. They waited 'til we got pretty close before they bothered moving. When they did move, it really wasn't because of us. They were just no longer interested in standing in the middle of the road.
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Conflicting messages.


Which is it? Is it no outlet, or is it and Emergency Evacuation Route? Can it be both? Don't you need an outlet in order to evacuate?

So we walked down to the end of the cul-de-sac.
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Here is the emergency exit.


Do not block it. Someone might need to get through.
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It just seems silly to me.


The sign is actually bolted on to the gate. And the gate is padlocked and chained. Not to mention the fact that the snow is blocking most cars from getting through, unless you have a truck. Does this make sense to you?
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Friday, December 26, 2008

The view through the Dining Room Window

Bunny decorated the backyard instead of the front yard, because most of the house faces the back, and that's what we see.

If I see a deer (or a bear) wander through, I'll post a picture for ya...

Merry Christmas

Twas the day after Christmas
and at Gram Jude's place
we were sitting and eating,
moving at a slow, lazy pace.

The presents were open
and wrap strewn about.
St. Nick had been good,
the kids happy, no doubt.

And I at the 'puter,
and Thor on the couch,
and Pop back in bed,
(Though Jude is no slouch).

Out in the dining room
arose such a clatter.
The kids - always wrestling
- knocked over a platter.

I looked out the window
from there at my seat.
I was glad that the fireplace
threw so much heat.

The clouds in the sky
and the woods full of snow
made us cozy inside,
glad we'd nowhere to go.

I felt bad for Bunny
who worked at the bank.
She had to go in today --
(she'd the shoppers to thank.)

Well, I sat and I wrote
this here poem for you.
Aside from just sitting,
I've nothing to do.

'Though I guess I could help
poor old Jude clean a bit.
The house is quite messy
(but she won't throw a fit.)

And I suppose I should cook
'cause lunch time is here.
Before you know it,
Frank will open a beer.

So I'm gonna sign off now
and make us a bite.
Merry Christmas to all,
and to all a good night!

Tuesday, December 23, 2008

Hey, I missed you!

Hello my dear bloggy friends, I haven't been here in a while, and I've missed you all dreadfully!

OK, I'm drinking some nice red wine right now... maybe a bit more than I should be. I'll have to slow down a bit because I don't want to be hungover for the Polish Christmas Eve fest tomorrow at Thor's parents house.

And I'm listening to some lovely bluesy folksy music. And the kids are out, but they will be coming home soon -- hopefully with a bunch of their friends -- and I have a baked ziti in the oven.

I'll be posting more tonight, I hope. Unless this wine flows too freely, or unless the children come back and steal their laptop from my grasp. (I'm still computerless. Which SUCKS. And I'm afraid to make the leap and buy the computer of my dreams, with the whole economy going down the tubes.)

But right now I've gotta clear the table, so we can eat. Talk to ya later.

Love ya.... no, really, I mean it! Seriously!

Wednesday, December 17, 2008

Happy Birthday Boys!

Today is my Nicholas' Birthday! He is 16 today, the 17th. 16 year old girls have the sweet thing. Nick isn't sweet, but he is wonderful.

The main milestone for a 16 year old boy is the whole driving thing starting up... He took the written test today, and yes, he passed. He was less excited than I expected. But Nick is just basically a laid back, chill kinda guy. The actual driving classes, six hours of instruction, start on Monday. I am NOT ready.

Nick is the peace maker in the family. He is the one who wants any conflict to cease immediately, and he is the one who always calls for the group hug. And, in fact, if any hug at all is happening in the house, he is most likely to throw himself into the middle of it. He is very loving.

Nick also has a great sense of humor and he loves to laugh. He loves comedies and Nickelodeon and Sponge Bob. He is always glad to be goofy.

Nick has a great ear. He is very good at imitating sounds and speech and songs. He has a very good voice when he sings. In fact, he's also a GREAT dancer, with a lot of natural rhythym and smooth moves. IF you can catch him. Because the minute he notices someone watching, he stops. He is still very shy. I think he'll grow out of it, eventually. Just not quite yet.

So Happy Birthday, Chicky. Don't be in TOO much of a rush to grow up. (Now go get a job. Shop Rite is hiring!)


ALSO celebrating a birthday today is my William! William is Nick's cousin. Here they are at the party this weekend, as we sang the worst rendition of Happy Birthday that you have EVER HEARD.

William is 11. He's a sweet kid, and he gets along great with Nick. He is totally into video games and Nascar and Pokemon. He is very intelligent and does well in school.

Happy Birthday, William!
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Jan's Birthday

Jan also celebrates her birthday on December 17th. Jan is another one of my BFF's along with Beth, but she's moved even farther away than Beth did. (I seem to have that effect on people.) However, we have a pact that we will be living in the same old age home when the time comes. We'll be in our 90's, sitting on the front porch and drinking tea, reading books, and wearing hats, and probably eating bonbons.

Isn't it terrible that I don't have a photo of Jan? I will take one the next time I see her. This photo reminded me of her because she has always been stylish; just now, Mom style takes the place of Fashion style.

I will get to Pittsburgh some day. Happy Birthday, Jan!

In Memory

I know Laurie will read this blog at some point, and I felt like in addition to acknowledging the beginning of life, with all of these birthdays, I wanted to also acknowledge her mom. She passed away today, and she will be missed very much by all those who knew her.

I give you this one thought to keep -
I am with you still - I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sunlight on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.

When you awaken in the morning's hush,
I am the swift, uplifting rush
of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not think of me as gone -
I am with you still - in each new dawn
~~ Author Unknown ~~


Tuesday, December 16, 2008

Keep your fingers crossed....


.... it could be a SNOW DAY tomorrow, if we are really lucky! Or, at least a delayed opening!

Tomorrow is Nicky's Birthday. I'll post a whole entry about my wonderful son tomorrow. It's also Jan's birthday and William's birthday. I'll try to post for them as well.

Right now, though, I've gotta go fill out the paperwork for his Drivers Ed written test tomorrow... :P
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Chris's Tattoo

  Everyone is into tattoos these days.

When RJ said he wanted a tattoo, I drew a picture for him, but I never really expected he'd get it. I was significantly stressed when I saw it permanently engraved in his flesh -- I at least thought he'd wait until he was old. I don't even have a picture of it; I took one, once, but it must have been in the computer before it crashed.

Anyway, Chris wanted one, too, so I drew it -- even though I wasn't sure I should, considering how worried I was about RJ's. Chris said he'd wait until he was 18, which seemed like a far time away. Well, Chris is turning 18 this week.

I had a similar reaction when I saw the photo of Chris's tattoo. I hesitate to do murals for people, even, because I feel like it's so permanent. It's really weird to do a sketch and have it permanently engraved on someone. However, it is also very flattering, that they liked my sketch that much.

I just REALLY REALLY REALLY hope that they don't regret getting tattooed. Which I think is very possible, no matter what image it is, whether it's mine or another one.
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Monday, December 15, 2008

Christmas Visits

  It was a very busy weekend of Christmas visits and parties. All the decorations were up and plenty of food was made, although to be truthful, not ALL of the decorations ever made it out of the box, and most of the food was provided by other people. It was a lot of fun, we were very very jolly.

Even so, I'm STILL not feeling very Christmassy. I had a great time, but it wasn't anything to do with the "spirit of the season," it was just having a good time seeing everyone. I couldn't really enjoy listening to Christmas music. I'm not connecting with the magic of the holiday. It might be at least partly because I'm not around little kids who believe in Santa very much anymore. Only Sabrina and Kelly. Sabrina, does this picture look more spooky or less spooky?

I took a sick day off work today and I'm planning on cleaning and shopping and organizing. I'm very happy to be home alone... it's wonderful! Maybe the next thing I need to do is get some of those old classic Christmas movies on the tv, while I fold laundry. That should get me in the holiday spirit!
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Saturday, December 13, 2008

Our Silver Tree

This is our main Christmas tree this year.

I had a little silver tree when I was a kid, and I was allowed to play with it, which was a lot of fun. When I got older, and my kids were little, there were no silver trees anywhere. I found this one in an antique store; it was from the same era as the tree I had.

About two years after that, silver trees became very popular. (Well, maybe not popular, but you could find them in the stores again.)

But I still like this one better than those.

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Holiday Decorations

I haven't been in much of a mood to decorate, but I got it together well enough for this weekend's parties.
Oh yeah, I must admit, the next photo is retouched to make the colors brighter. I wanted it to look fancier and brighter and prettier than real life.

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Follow Your Heart

I've watched the kids and their friends
play pretend when they were little,
and play with their toys,
and try on different lives.

And I've watched a few of them,
going through middle school very earnestly,
and others going through middle school very dramatically
trying on different styles and opinions
and sometimes settling on some rather silly ideas
and saying,
"this is who I am."

This is who you are since when?

And now they are in High School,
and this seems to be who they really are.
But it is at least partly a choice.
They have chosen to be this way
and they can choose to try to be different,
although they may have to work hard at it.
Those choices tend to solidify
and trap you in the place
you have chosen to occupy.

And I am getting old,
and I have told myself, and everyone else,
"This is who I am."
I'm rather set in my ways.
I didn't feel that way as a child.
I felt like everything was still a possibility,
and I could create myself new in every new relationship
and in every new day.

But just yesterday
As I approach yet another birthday
I found a crack in who I've become
and I've decided that now might be a good time
to try on a whole new possibility
and to say to myself,
"I can be this person, too."

Monday, December 08, 2008

(Old photo. I don't even have time to take a new photo... sorry....)

Busy week...

I wrote two posts in this spot tonight. When the first one was done, I went back and re-read it, and decided to erase the whole thing and start over.

The gist of my first post is that there is a lot going on this week, and I'm a bit stressed. Or should I say tired? Because that might be more appropriate. If the house doesn't get cleaned, and decorated, and gifts wrapped, and cookies baked, well, it really won't matter all that much in the scope of what is really important.

More importantly, everyone hold a good thought or say a prayer for Kelly, who is in the hospital. She had what seems to be a stomache virus, she got dehydrated, went to the hospital for a few days, went home, and got sick AGAIN and so is back in the hospital. She's only a baby, and her mama is stressed. For real.

And hold a good thought/say a prayer for two different families I know with parents who are ill... and for the family who I know who just lost their father... and for the family Gem knows who is just getting out of a homeless shelter. And for all the families who are being hard hit by economics. I went to a tag sale this weekend at a house whose owner was going thru bankruptcy and was liquidating the entire house for cash to pay their bills.

So never mind my complaining about too much to do and not enough time to do it in. It wasn't really important. My stress is manufactured. The only thing left of the post that I had previously written is the following statement:

I think that in another life I was a bear, because all I want to do is hibernate. I am so SLEEPY!

So if I'm not writing much, that's why. I'll get back to ya all next week.

Saturday, December 06, 2008

Energize me

G'Morning. OK, for you early birds, it's almost afternoon, but 10:25 on a Saturday, that's early enough for me. But I'm starting out good today. I MUST get this house at least clean, if not decorated, by the end of the weekend.

Plus, I have cookies to start. And gifts to wrap. And, actually, gifts to buy.

The boys got up and out early, working on an Eagle project for one of their fellow scouts. Thor's dad called and has a project for him to do as well. So EVERYONE is moving. And the laundry is already started.

So I'm not posting much right now, because I really don't want to stall any longer. I have the energy (I think) and I'm gonna get going.

I plan on writing more later.

Watch me work.

No, really, I'm going.


(Feel free to stop in for a cup of tea at any point.)

See ya.

Friday, December 05, 2008


No, really.


That is all.


Thursday, December 04, 2008

Lack of Spontaneity part 2

I wrote the previous post at break, which I take the exact same time every day. I drive home, start the tea kettle, and go online to check emails and blogs while the teakettle boils. As soon as the kettle whistles, I pour my tea, and head back to work. Which is my point, of course.

Then, after my break, I work on permanent records in school. I have a certain specific amount of time and then I head back to my car and drive home for lunch, which is almost the same as break only more food and more time.

Today, coming home again for lunch, I heard a really good song on the radio. So that made me start thinking -- and I knew I had to adjust my previous post.

Music is the key factor in my life that makes it not so bad to be so unspontaneous. Because I'm doing all of these boring mundane things everyday, but I usually have the Sirius Satellite Radio on, or discs, or my Ipod. I only wish I could listen to music in work -- that would make it perfect.

Music keeps my lack of spontaneity from freaking me out. Which is why I need to change my music so often, probably. Music is my variety which spices my life.

(Rock on, Milwaukee!

Lack of Spontaneity

Did I spell that right?

Anyway, I like my job. I really do.

The only bad thing about my job, which is probably one of the main bad things about any job, is the lack of spontaneity.

More and more, my life is revolving about the clock.

I wake up at exactly 5:30, I shower at exactly 6:15, I get to work for 7 (ish -- I'm not THAT exact!), I take my break and come home to make tea, I work on specific partsof my job at specific times of the day. It's rather predictable which makes it rather boring. But the predictability of it also makes it easier to get everything done that needs to get done, because I have certain times to do certain things, and those things take a certain amount of time.

Mind you, I'm not trying to complain. I'm not sad or depressed about it; it's just easier, which technically means it's a good thing, probably, more or less. Like I said, I like my job. I'm choosing this lack of spontaneity.

Maybe I need to schedule in some spontaneous time?

Anyway, I'm not in a very Christmasy mood. I think that Christmas is a spontaneous holiday, and I haven't started feeling it at ALL yet.

I need to get some decorations up inside my house. Maybe if I surround myself with the season, I'll start to feel it.

But decorating and cookie baking doesn't really fit in with my self-imposed schedule.

Monday, December 01, 2008

Life Lessons email: the reply...

I received this email from someone I know who isn't in the greatest mood lately... but she makes some very good points.

Sue...I put my own comments in after each one... lol...

1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.No shit it isn't fair. If it was fair all the bitches would be fat ugly and bald, with out men and broke.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step. But keep your eyes wide open... cause most likely there is a pile of shit somewhere nearby.

3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. But sometimes you just gotta hate some people.

4. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does. yeah I know very few people take me seriously.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month. nuff said

6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree. I don't usually win arguments, but if I am right I will prove it!!!

7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone. I feel sorry for the people I end up crying too. They probably have learned to not answer when I call.

8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it. I don't get angry with God. He didn't do it. I am angry with me, and a few others. I am thankful he listens to me bitch and complain though!!!

9. Save for retirement starting with your first pay cheque. Now ya tell me

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile. I can do with out chocolate... until I go to work... then gimme gimme!!! But I did loose 7 pounds so I guess I am not eating too much.

11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present. I try to make peace with every thing and every one. My present is already screwed up.

12. It's OK to let your children see you cry. That's good, cause he has!!

13. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about. I compare all the time. But I know that I am where I am supposed to be...even if I don't like or understand it.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it. No kidding. Hmph I would have never guessed that one.

15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God never blinks. yep don't I know it

16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind. sometimes you can even get a good head rush!!

17. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful. Well I guess I have alot of stuff to be rid of, my ex husband, a few other things.

18. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger. And tell me when is that strength they talk about actually kick in. I should be super girl!

19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else. I had a happy childhood, it is adult life that isn't going too smoothly.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer. Sometimes you hafta take no for an answer... otherwise you are labeled a stalker.

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special. I do burn my candles, I use my sheets, and wear my lingerie... why wait... but today isn't very special. It is just the same as yesterday.

22. Over-prepare, then go with the flow. I always overprepare. I was a girl scout ya know.

23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple. What does purple hafta do with old age?

24. The most important sex organ is the brain. I don't think I ever had the big O from my brain or anyone elses for that matter!

25. No one is in charge of your happiness except you. I agree, but you need someone to help you in happiness. Being alone is not very happy.

26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: 'In five years time, will this matter?' truthfully not much will matter in 5 years. but stuff still happens and it still sucks.

27. Always choose life. Well no duh!

28. Forgive everyone everything. I can forgive... and I have... but I will never forget... and in some cases will make sure other people won't either.

29 What other people think of you is none of your business. If it involves me it is my business. But most times it is better off if you don't know.

30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time. notice the almost.

31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change. yep, it usually does... but sometimes it is for the worse!!

32. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch. How true that is.

33. Believe in miracles. I do. and I am hoping and waiting for mine.

34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do. I am thankful for that.

35. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now. I do try to make the most of nothing. But sometimes you are just not in the mood.

36. Growing old beats the alternative of dying young. Agree totally

37. Your children get only one childhood. Make it memorable. I try that with all my heart and soul.

38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved. I loved, and loved and would be nice to have that feeling returned on occasion.

39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere. So that is why I haven't gotten my miracle yet... I like being inside.

40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back. I know my problems aren't as bad as some. No doubt there!!!

41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need. I do have all I need. My son, family. A place to live, a job, etc. Still it would be nice to have a companion.

42. The best is yet to come. Good, cause I don't think I found the best yet.

43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up. I do... sometimes.

44. Yield. yield, I am a doormat... I think maybe for me it should say stop!

45. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift. I am grateful for all that I have... Especially my family and friends.